Saturday, 4 April 2020

Learnings from Mahabharata 

Om Sarve Bhavantu Sukhinah
Sarve Santu Niraamayaah |
Sarve Bhadraanni Pashyantu
Maa Kashcid-Duhkha-Bhaag-Bhavet |
Om Shaantih Shaantih Shaantih ||

After spending almost a month to complete Mahabharata i have observed and have learnt few lessons which i would like to share here.

Karma pays off- When karma pays off it feels and looks even more horrific to the person who did wrong deeds at a time. The only factor which is in your control is how to perform the Karma.

Time is the only deciding factor- Nothing is beyond time and your destiny. You never need to invite or control the destiny.

Traditions are not exactly Dharma- Dharma is a more enhances and selective form of tradition, when you remove all unnecessary things from traditions it is dharma. Hence leaving following traditions blindly or leaving it completely will keep you away from dharma.

A women's desire to marry someone itself is marriage which should not be broken- Bhishma managed to get his brother Vichitravirya marry by using his own strength and power. in this process he did hurt the dreams of Amba who wanted to marry someone else. That act of forcing and making others feel weaker lead to Adharma and end of Bhishma.

Your physical weakness isn't really a weakness until you make it the only thing to think about- Dhritrasthra wanted to become a king to fulfil his weakness and he did everything possible to make it happen.

Love and Respect in a marriage decides the quality of their vansh- Dhratrashtra-Gandhari (No love and respect lead them to have kids like Kuravas), Pandu-Kunti (With love and respect they were blessed by Pandavas).


Set your family boundaries right- Shakuni always wanted to harm Hastinapur for his own pride and revenge towards Bhishma. Gandhari and Bhishma knew this and still did not took enough effort in keeping him away from the Kuru Vansh.

A devotion for your siblings is far better and trustworthy then devotion to a friend in time of problems- Pandavas always remain united and trusted each other, while Duryodhana loved his brother but played big game in the name of his friendship.

Know your profession and remain there to make best out of it- Dronacharya was an intellectual but he made education a business to make his son a king which lead him to fight against his own students. It also lead him to humiliation and supporting Duryodhana against his wish.

Teach the kids to struggle and earn for themselves and also to remain calm and satisfied with what they have at that moment- Dronachrya after seeing his son drinking wheat malt instead of milk, he made a promise to make him rich. this idea lead him to beg in-front of his own friend Drupadh and ultimately to the war.

Stop the kids at first mistake for their better future- Every parent love their kids but ignoring the mistakes made in childhood can lead to bigger issues in later stage. Dhritrastra ignored the mistake of Duryodhana and his brothers where they lied and misbehaved with fisherman. He punished the Fisherman and not his kids.

Leave everything the moment you see you are not being valued anymore- Duryodhana and his friends used Bhishma and also humiliated him many times. Bhishma knew this but still kept on doing his duty.

Your education is useless and will not stay with you if you are not clear about it's aim- Karna never worked to make himself better or make the life of other citizens better. He just studied to compete with Arjuna which lead him to forget the same knowledge during war when he needed it most.

If a Dog is barking while sitting on an elephant, its elephant's mistake- Duryodhana has courage to go beyond limits as he support from Karna (the scholar). It was the mistake of Karna for not realising the same.

The one don't believe on own power are the weakest one- Shakuni always believed in the power of three great warriors hence at the end he kept running but could never fight.

Don't trust the one who changes it's color every moment- Shakuni was artful who tried to say good things to everyone but never said what was in his own heart.


And many more learnings, i urge everyone to watch or read it once in lifetime and try to relate with the things in present situation as well. you will feel that the whole book still holds true and we can find each character of Mahabharata around us doing the same mistake and not learning from it.

Jai Shree Krishan



महाभारत से सीख

ॐ सर्वे भवन्तु सुखिनः
सर्वे सन्तु निरामयाः ।
सर्वे भद्राणि पश्यन्तु
मा कश्चिद्दुःखभाग्भवेत् ।
ॐ शान्तिः शान्तिः शान्तिः ॥

महाभारत को पूरा करने के लिए लगभग एक महीने बिताने के बाद मैंने कुछ सबक सीखे हैं और जिन्हें मैं यहाँ साझा करना चाहता हूँ।

कर्म भुगतान करता है- जब कर्म भुगतान करता है तो यह महसूस कराता है और उस व्यक्ति को और भी भयानक लगता है जिसने एक समय में गलत काम किया था। एकमात्र कारक जो आपके नियंत्रण में है, वह है कर्म करना।

समय ही एकमात्र निर्णायक कारक है- कुछ भी समय और आपके भाग्य से परे नहीं है। आपको भाग्य को आमंत्रित करने या नियंत्रित करने की आवश्यकता नहीं है।

परम्पराएँ वास्तव में धर्म नहीं हैं- धर्म परम्परा का एक अधिक संवर्धित और चयनात्मक रूप है, जब आप सभी अनावश्यक चीजों को परंपराओं से हटा देते हैं तो यह धर्म है। इसलिए निम्नलिखित परंपराओं को आँख बंद करके या पूरी तरह से छोड़ने से आप धर्म से दूर रहेंगे।

एक  महिला की व्यक्तिविशेष से विवाह की चाह ही उसका विवाह ह  उसे तोड़कर आप दंड के अपराधी बनते ह - भीष्म अपने बल और शक्ति का उपयोग करके अपने भाई विचित्रवीर्य से शादी करने में कामयाब रहे। इस प्रक्रिया में उन्होंने अंबा के उन सपनों को आहत किया जो किसी और से शादी करना चाहती थी । दूसरों को बलपूर्वक निर्बल बनाने और इच्छाओ का अपमान करने के अधर्म के कारण भीष्म का अंत शुरू हुआ. 

आपकी शारीरिक कमजोरी वास्तव में कमजोरी नहीं है जब तक कि आप स्वयं उसे  कमजोरी मानकर  लक्ष्य नहीं बनाते - धृतराष्ट्र अपनी कमजोरी को पूरा करने के लिए एक राजा बनना चाहता था और उसने ऐसा करने के लिए हर संभव प्रयास किया।


एक विवाह में प्यार और सम्मान उनके वंश की गुणवत्ता को तय करता है- धृतराष्ट्र-गांधारी (बिना प्रेम और सम्मान के इस विवाह से  उन्हें कौरवों जैसे बच्चे पैदा किये ), पांडु-कुंती (प्रेम और सम्मान के साथ उन्होंने पांडवों को प्राप्त किया )।


अपनी पारिवारिक सीमाएं सही तय करें- शकुनि हमेशा से ही अपने अभिमान और भीष्म के प्रति बदला लेने के लिए हस्तिनापुर को नुकसान पहुंचाना चाहता था। गांधारी और भीष्म यह जानते थे और फिर भी उसे  कुरुवंश से दूर रखने में पर्याप्त प्रयास नहीं किया।


अपने भाई-बहनों के लिए एक समर्पण कहीं बेहतर और भरोसेमंद है  एक दोस्त के प्रति समर्पण से - पांडव हमेशा एक-दूसरे के साथ थे एक-दूसरे पर भरोसा करते हैं, जबकि दुर्योधन अपने भाई से प्यार करता था लेकिन अपनी दोस्ती के नाम पर बड़ा खेल खेला।

अपने पेशे को समझे और उसमें सर्वश्रेष्ठ बने - द्रोणाचार्य एक बुद्धिजीवी थे लेकिन उन्होंने अपने बेटे को राजा बनाने के लिए शिक्षा को एक व्यवसाय बना दिया, जो उसे अपने ही छात्रों के खिलाफ लड़ने के लिए प्रेरित करता है। यह उसे अपमानित करने और दुर्योधन को उसकी इच्छा के खिलाफ समर्थन करने के लिए भी प्रेरित करता है।

बच्चों को संघर्ष करना सिखाएं और खुद से  कमाना सिखाये और उस पल में उनके पास जो कुछ भी है, उससे शांत और संतुष्ट रहना सिखाये - द्रोणाचार्य ने अपने बेटे को दूध के बजाय गेहूं का माट  पीते देखकर, उसे अमीर बनाने का वादा किया। यह विचार उन्हें अपने ही मित्र द्रुपद के सामने भीख मांगने और अंततः युद्ध की ओर ले जाता है।


बच्चों को उनके बेहतर भविष्य के लिए पहली गलती पर रोकें- हर माता-पिता अपने बच्चों से प्यार करते हैं लेकिन बचपन में की गई गलतियों को नजरअंदाज करना बाद  में बड़े मुद्दों को जन्म दे सकता है। धृतराष्ट्र ने दुर्योधन और उसके भाइयों की गलती को नजरअंदाज कर दिया, जहां उन्होंने झूठ बोला था और मछुआरे के साथ दुर्व्यवहार किया था। उन्होंने मछुआरे को दंडित किया न कि उसके बच्चों को।


जहाँ  आपकी कद्र न हो उस स्थान को त्यागना  ही समझदारी और धर्म ह - दुर्योधन और उसके दोस्तों ने भीष्म का इस्तेमाल किया और उसे कई बार अपमानित भी किया। भीष्म यह जानते थे लेकिन फिर भी अपना कर्तव्य निभाते रहे।


आपकी शिक्षा बेकार है और अगर आप इसके उद्देश्य के बारे में स्पष्ट नहीं हैं - कर्ण ने कभी भी खुद को बेहतर बनाने या अन्य नागरिकों के जीवन को बेहतर बनाने के लिए काम नहीं किया। उन्होंने सिर्फ अर्जुन के साथ प्रतिस्पर्धा करने के लिए अध्ययन किया जो उन्हें युद्ध के दौरान उसी ज्ञान को भूलने के लिए प्रेरित करता है जब उन्हें इसकी सबसे अधिक आवश्यकता होती है।


यदि कोई कुत्ता हाथी पर बैठकर भौंक रहा है, तो उसके हाथी की गलती ह - दुर्योधन ने मर्यादा की सीमाएं लांघने की हिम्मत इसीलिए ही क्यूंकि उसे  कर्ण (विद्वान) का समर्थन एवं रक्षण प्राप्त था इस कारण यहाँ गलती कर्ण की ह जिसने समर्थन दिया एयर ये साकार होने दिया ।


खुद की शक्ति पर विश्वास नहीं करने वाले सबसे कमजोर होते हैं- शकुनि हमेशा तीन महान योद्धाओं की शक्ति में विश्वास करता था इसलिए अंत में वह भागता रहा लेकिन कभी लड़ नहीं पाया।


उस पर भरोसा न करें जो हर पल रंग बदलता है- शकुनि धूर्त था जिसने हर किसी को अच्छी बातें कहने की कोशिश की लेकिन कभी नहीं कहा कि उसके दिल में क्या था।


कई और सीखें, मैं सभी से आग्रह करती हूं कि इसे जीवन में एक बार देखें या पढ़ें और वर्तमान स्थिति के परपेक्ष  में देखने की कोशिश करे। आप महसूस करेंगे कि पूरी किताब और हर लिखा शब्द अभी भी सही है और हम अपने चारों ओर महाभारत के प्रत्येक चरित्र को वो ही गलती करते देख सकते हैं और इससे सीख नहीं ले सकते हैं।

जय श्री कृष्ण

Tuesday, 2 August 2016

Life management #3 -Let go to move on

If i tell you that you love ur sadness more then ur happiness.... you may feel surprised but thats the truth... when we are sad we are too much into the emotions that we start loving that stage... while when you are happy you dont celebrate it more then few hours or days.. even for many things you take just few minutes to celebrate the good thing happened to you... and you just look forward for something better then what just happened..

But somehow we dont treat our downs of life in similar way..people  can keep on talking about something bad happened to them.. and will make themselves feel again bad even after years..

Rejection,failure are part of the game call "Life".. you have given your 100% to make something work...to become more beautiful and succeed..... Thts it u r done... even after it u face a rejection.. its not anymore something to think upon..  you will get whatever is meant to be thr.

Try hard till you feel after this point i wont feel "I wish I could hv tried it"...

Life is small.... its just date,time,day &night... just numbers which keep changing...  make each day count by being positive and happy... just let go whatever makes u feel unworthy..😊😊😍👍✌

Sunday, 26 June 2016

Relationship rule#3-Say what you actually mean

If i give you a reason which will make u heart break, and if you are intelligent enough. You will realize that it is bullshit as a reason to what I am saying you now.

What am I trying to do by saying something like this? Most of the couple uses such tactics to break-ups. Which leads other partner to believe that all my good side which attracted the other half on first instant, is now not good anymore... even are working as my negative points. Can call it out as "Reason to spoil a beautiful dream".

The person who is getting rejected will start loosing itself in this process and will hate all those good qualities, just cz the partner has mentioned them as a reason to break it up with you.

Don't do that.. speak out your heart.. tell the truth.. In this process dont make other person feel bad about him/her self...

Everyone has certain characteristics which can be or cannot be compatible with others. Doesn't mean they are wrong/bad qualities.   

You are an Individual.. who just happened to face something from someone out of that person's own frustration. Many times people judge you with their influences and  past experiences. It doesn't mean at all.

The best approach can be only a honest communication. something which is true, believe me "The person listening to you knows your heart better then you are acting to be".

Life is short, and finding someone you feel happy & complete with them is all matters. Rest is just a struggle to survive :)

By- Kalpana  

Wednesday, 15 June 2016

Relationship rule #02- To be happy couple learn to be a true single

What do we mean by a Happy Couple?

The one who reach to the solution to any conflict ASAP with a win-win approach. And the one who standing as a partner for lifetime.

We can see many of the couple are facing this issue now. People are too dependent on each other from emotional aspects. You both are two different individuals who have their own way to look and deal with any given situation. Expecting your other half to behave same way like you can lead towards conflicts in long run.

Many times people try their best to fit into their partner's shoes but get bored and irritated after a point. Then you see that other partner is becoming clingy or nagging for  things.

Why does it happen?
Its all cz people tend to get influence by the things happening around and wana have a partner just cz their friend has one. While these relations doesn't go for long run most of the time. Still you create that emotional space permanently which makes u to be with someone every time.

Now when you have a permanent space created for certain expectations, you cannot handle if you partner couldn't meet ur expectations for a limited time. Which leads to over thinking and mainly negative thoughts and insecurity in your mind and makes ur partner feel cheese off u..

Thats why if you wana lead the life as happy couple you should first learn to stay as a TRUE SINGLE...

What does it mean?

Find out ur spark.. which can be strongest then any bond around. Learn to spend and love ME TIME without feeling petty on urself. let other individual also have that personal space and respect for the same. Being single can help you in boosting your self esteem and confidence to live ur life on ur own. it also help u to enjoy ur relationship when you fall into as u will never get bored of each other (cz you are not so much available to anyone).

Just a thought and analytics on the situation seen around. It may differ in certain exceptional cases..

Cheers,
Kalpana Sharma

Sunday, 29 May 2016

Relationship rules #01-Dont leave ur partner alone

It has been observed that after a point one of the two feel he/she should walk out of it.
Relationship is a partnership, where you enter with your partner in this "Ring". You both are equally responsible for its stage. Whether it's a happy or a sad status. Don't leave your partner alone in the ring and walk out of it. It will make him/her feel confused or petty on themselves without any reason.

For any healthy relationship it is important to stand with your partner in any adverse situation. To change your partner but first change your self.

And if you don't have these all qualities, better never get into it. Believe me the one who dump the partner will have guilt in coming years but the one who has suffered from this will be free from any guilt and a high chance to get better option in life.

Life is about to see beauty in small small things, not in going into fairytale.

Don't be the reason for someone's anxiety, fear or emotionally imbalanced life.

By-Kalpana

Friday, 19 June 2015

Life management-#02 Life is about new experience. Every moment is an experience

Life is all about meeting to different people..try to understand them.. Get hurt... Be loved... And move on or tie knot..

If you had bad experience it really doesn't mean that you stop trying to meet the next one..

Enjoy this life..  Travel... See what god has created for us... Meet and talk to people and feel how great creatures he is.. Eat Bindass.. Dance like a crazy..

That is life all about.. Enjoy it with fullest.. You never know when god decide to call you back to his floor.. :)

Wednesday, 27 March 2013

Life management-#01 Think slow, go in the flow

We think a lot..... don't we??? If we see the scenario most of the young people are thinking about their life decisions.. Did i choose rit or wrong and bla bla.... but can we really control our decisions???
My reply will "NO" actually we cannot... our choice,desires depends on our life experiences what we saw, we get attracted toward that particular thing but with time n experiance out thoughts changes and our mind jump on another stuff..... our brain is an autonomous functional body with respect to our likes and dislikes and our desires.....
BUT in the mean time if you want you can stick to your life policy which can really bring out some great life....because decision making time comes 20% in life all 80% depends on how you take it :)
so "Just Chill" with time everything will alrite you just control your emotions n enjoy the beauty of life......sb kuchh aasaan h.